Mostly in our culture, the rhetoric about what men want or need from women is not accurate. The problem is that there are many experts out there with conflicting opinions. How can a woman find a boyfriend, fix her marriage, attract the right man,or know how to flirt with men with all of this misinformation out there? Who and what are we to believe?
Putting aside everything you have learned from Cosmo, your mom, your friends, the media and your psychologist... to attract the right man for a happy and fulfilling relationship requires an understanding of the actual situation. So, here is a quick overview.
First, let's talk about the caveman. Genetic research has revealed that, while genetic mutations happen almost constantly, most are either not conducive to the survival of the organism, or the genetic mutation is insignificant. Genetic mutations that actually cause a positive or enhancing effect happen about once every half a million years or so.
This means that most men are still walking, talking cavemen. Not a bad thing but something to be considered. Cavemen served and protected their weaker counterparts, as women could not fight wolves and saber toothed tigers while nursing and caring for babies.
Most of these modern cavemen believe they know their own minds and own motivations, but in general, that is not the case. What makes them happy and what they believe makes them happy are two completely different things, and this is why the female must make an effort to find the truth.
Second, the women's feminist movement of the 60's and 70's freed women to go out and be their own heroes, essentially removing the need for the service and protection from our cavemen. This would help explain why men seem ambivalent, confused or downright hostile toward women these days.
Because men are genetically programmed to serve and protect, we can explore our own inner personality traits (psychologists call these inner traits "archetypes") to see if we are balanced in such a way as to be worthy of being served and protected, and if we are, we will attract a real man who has our best interests in mind.
If we are unaware of how our inner archetypes are presenting in the world, we will attract some other type of man - an unrealistic, immature, self-serving man, perhaps, if our mother archetype is expressing through us.
Operating from unbalanced archetypes attracts an inferior type of man.This leads to the feeling or belief that "there are no good men left out there".
Or, we may attract a great man who admires our independent spirit and our spunkiness, but drive him away later because our amazon archetype brings out the fight in him.
Getting to know which archetypes are expressing through you can be entertaining and very empowering. Quality men are unconsciously attracted to a woman with balanced archetypes, what I call a "goddess". Goddesses are 4 parts courtesan, 3 parts madonna, 2 parts amazon and 1 part mother.
Taking the time to get to know your own inner workings can be a very powerful and enlightening thing to do, and you will attract the right man for you, but do not make the mistake of falling in love with just one man. You must notice how easy it is to love many men, and then choose the best one, but that is a subject for a different article.
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