By Besski Livius
It's hard to fight for something that seems to go nowhere, and it's very often that long distance relationships seem to lead nowhere. My current 2 years relationship did not have a "closing the distance plan" until a few months ago. For 1.5 years we "loved each other" from afar without having an idea of when and how the distance would close. Right now, we plan on closing the distance a year from now, moving together to Scotland, but it's also indefinite.
So how do we keep fighting for our love even without seeing a bright future together? Where do we get the motivation for it?
My answer to this question is simple: A car driver when driving in the night does not need to see the whole road from point A to point B entirely, in order to get to his destination. He just needs to see the next 100 meters lighten by the front lights.
In a long distance relationship it's ideal if you know when you'll get back together. But if you don't know it yet, it doesn't mean that you have to be discouraged and give up.
Your "destination" is closing the distance, and "the next 100 meters" is the next time you meet again. That's it. Knowing that you love each other and you want to eventually close the distance (and always looking for that opportunity) is the first thing, and the second important thing is being guided by the "next visit".
You can go like that for years, until one day an opportunity to close the distance will arise. I know I did, and I know thousands of successful couples did that too and still do it every day.
And here's how to take this thing to the next level: Have fun stuff to look forward to! Figure out some exciting stuff that you want to do together next time you meet, like: going to a trip together, having sex 6 times a day for 2 days, going to a special event together, going to a special restaurant to have dinner etc. so that you really look forward to your next visit. And the next thing is to make your visits truly memorable so that they remind you later of how amazing you can be together and motivate you to fight for your love, even while confused about the future.
You see, classic relationships are easy, but only strong people like you, can manage to have a long distance relationship and also enjoy it!
And believe me that the rewards are worthwhile.
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